The heiress to one of the most lucrative racing event in the world, Tamara Ecclestone is the daughter of Bernie Ecclestone. The former Formula One Group CEO is reportedly worth $3.4 billion and Tamara gets it all if and when Bernie croaks. Tamara is a British model, a socialite, and somewhat a TV personality. She was born on June 28, 1984, and gave birth to a baby girl in 2014, her name is Sophia. Her husband is Jay Rutland. In the last 3 years, the media has put a magnifying glass over anything and everything Tamara has been doing, especially with her daughter Sophia. Here is a collection of what people believe are ten parenting rules of Tamara Ecclestone.
10. Do not stress out over anything
A recent medical survey found what impact of chronic stress in parents have on their children in the long term. The survey found effects on the children’s emotional and physical health. Reports showed that children experience emotional and physical health repercussions connected with stress, and affected children as young as eight years old. Chronic stress, moreover, if experienced regularly and at high levels, puts you at risk of developing depression, diabetes, and even heart disease. Contrasting results from separate surveys show the direct and adverse effect of the awareness of parents and the stress they bring home to the effect it has on their children. While 7 out of 10 parents say their stress has little or no impact to their children, 5 out of 10 children say they feel sad, 3 out of 10 say they are worried, and 2 out of 10 say they feel frustrated whenever they see their parents are stressed.
Tamara does her best about her situation because she knows what is important. She gave up her usual social proclivities to nurture her daughter, that act alone says a lot. What she does to her child is what she believes is right, and that makes her feel at peace. What other kinds of stress would she come across if she knows she is doing the right thing for her family, no such stress.
9. Manage your own anxieties
Dealing with anxiety is pretty much a part of daily life. There are times that our anxiety spills over to other things, or, more critically, to other people. More often than not, and we try to avoid it and regret it as soon as it happens, we lash out at our children. This is how anxiety affects our children, it is much like dealing with stress. What people need to practice and need to be doing is properly managing their anxieties and avoid projecting it outward or externally. How many times have you been anxious or nervous and then you spill it onto your child and immediately feel bad and wished you haven’t done it. These innocent kids, they do not know what’s happening and do not understand the borderline hostility they just received, it confuses them. Research shows that children who exhibit anxiety have parents who display the same attitude, probably genetic or behavioral, or a combination of both.
For a parent who has committed to being with their children all the time they can, Tamara is going to have to also manage her anxiety on situations where a mother is required to be away from their child, like in school. It already happened, and Tamara handled the situation as well as any mother attached to her child, like she is, could have.
8. Create a safe space for your child
A safe space is essential for our children, it is the venue for them to share their feelings. Free from judgment, ridicule, and scorn, this space is also sought by adults. If you think about it in terms of adults, a safe space sounds like a best friend, a supportive partner, a loving husband, or just a concerned favorite aunt or uncle. As we grow older, the safe space we usually have with our parents starts to fade away. It’s only normal for people as children generally keep things from their parents as they get older. But why should that be the norm? If we are parents ourselves, it is our job to make sure that this safe space is not forgotten by our children. It is a healthy relationship, and great parenting if our children can still go to their safe space with us in their teens.
Only the people closest to them could tell otherwise, but the safe place that Tamara made for her daughter has been a fortress of trust and sincerity between the two. On the surface, the mother and daughter team has shown poise and a healthy relationship together in front of media and other people. It’s another evidence that Tamara, after all the comments regarding her parenting, has been doing a good enough job, and that’s saying a lot in terms of taking care of your child.
7. Wear your baby in a harness
It’s a simple matter of being protective of your child against the perception of other people. The visual aspect cannot be denied, harnessing a child is compared to leashed dogs and other pets, hence the negative feedback. The harness is like tethers attached to the parent and to a backpack fashioned like a stuffed animal worn by the child. It is most effective in public places that are crowded like malls or amusement parks. As a parent, if you like to take your kid outdoors, you eat the perception to ensure your child is safe and stays connected to you, literally.
Just like most parents who use a harness on their children, Tamara is no longer using it with her daughter, There is a certain age for children, and usually earlier for girls, where harnesses are no longer needed. Sophia has graduated to that part of her development where curiosity is at an all-time high for a child and the consequence of pain is secondary, if not non-existent. Once again, Tamara’s parenting strategy was placed front and center for everyone to criticize. If people cannot keep to themselves when seeing mothers with harnessed children, what more would that person say if the mother is a famous celebrity like Tamara Ecclestone?
6. Co-sleeping is good
Co-sleeping has all the benefits it could effect the relationship between mother and child, but it could easily be a double-edged sword as well. Plenty of research supports the latter statement, But this does not mean we should dismiss it and treat it as taboo just like that.
Co-sleeping is not exactly sleeping in the same bed as your baby, it could also be sleeping in the same room as the baby’s. While doctors say that co-sleeping could be dangerous, co-sleeping moms would tell you emphatically that you are missing an integral part of your baby’s emotional development and that connection and intimacy with their mother. On the other hand, co-sleeping runs the risk of SIDS or Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Research found that 69% of deaths in babies happen in co-shared beds.
Tamara believes in co-sleeping and she is still doing it with her daughter until now. She must be a very light sleeper or just, despite what most critics believe, a very responsible and careful mother. She is beginning to look like a hardworking, effective, and responsible parent to her dear Sophia, the lack of SIDS is a big evidence of that.
5. Spend as much time with your child as you possibly can
Tamara has committed to spending time as often as she can, as much time as she could give to her daughter. There is a fine line between spending precious time with your child and never wanting to get separated or being afraid to be away from your child. Well, Tamara never denied it. She admitted in an interview that she had bouts of separation anxieties earlier but she has been over them now.
Dropping everything, the lifestyle you are used to is what Tamara has done for her new priority in life. They say that people don’t really change, but having a baby in your life changes most people in a way that they themselves would have never imagined. She mentioned in interviews that she has only been away from her daughter six and a half minutes until Sophia turned three. That is what you’d call following through with a commitment, Tamara has proven that she can be the best mom she can be, at least the version of the best mom she knows. What she is doing is not something new, it’s called attachment parenting. It’s a philosophy of raising a child and being there for them through most of their formative years physically and emotionally.
4. Give your child a luxurious lifestyle
Giving your child a luxurious lifestyle, in other words, is spoiling your child. The act of spoiling a child varies in the things you give them, the comforts they are getting, and the capacity of the parent to spoil. Older children always draw their ace card in these words, Everyone else has one, I should get one too. They have it, why can’t I? At times, as a parent, it is easier to just give in. After all, these things make our children happy, and their happiness is what’s important to us parents, we are happy if they are happy.
There are parents who impart wisdom to their children, to give them that sense of ownership and responsibility, and not a false sense of entitlement. They would no doubt give them what they need in life, sometimes they get what they want, but they will not get what they want everytime they want something. This is an important learning experience for children, to ensure they do not have the entitlement syndrome. Entitled children tend to be more careless and are prone to trouble as they grow older. But what do you do if you are one of these entitled children growing up? What if money is no object? What if you have the capacity to give your child every luxury they can get? This is Tamara and Sophia’s situation. Let’s just hope Sophia grows up to be on of the few young ones with little or no sense of entitlement.
3. Your baby should absorb everything
Kind of effectual to numbers 1 and 2 in this list, a child absorbs everything. A baby is born with a brain like a sponge, in that they will absorb everything they experience from infancy to 6 years old. A child learns the foundation of their life, their personality, and their behavior in their first three years, and all of these stick to their brain at age 6. That is why it is crucial for parents to guide and nurture their children in the first three years. It sounds like Tamara is ahead of the curve in parenting.
When you are with your child all the time, you are having them see what you are doing every day. Like when you are doing something as simple as preparing breakfast, they watch you and they feel that inspiration and would want to emulate you every way they can. Tamara shared that she is lucky to have a husband like Jay because he supports her all the way. They do not have contradicting beliefs when it comes to raising their child. In this sense, Sophia is not conflicted with what she is experiencing on a daily basis. Conflict in a child stems from a conflict between the mom and dad. Tamara and Jay do not have that problem, good for them!
2. Breastfeeding at three years old
It is a little uncomfortable to watch a three-year-old nursing from their mom, isn’t it? But the question is why. Why does society, on a global scale, frown upon, or have such strong feelings about mothers nursing three-year-olds? If people knew the benefits of going beyond exclusive breastfeeding, they would altogether change their view of the subject.
Breastfeeding is nutrition and immune system all-in-one for the baby. In terms of the latter, the longer the baby breastfeeds, the bigger their immunity improves. Wouldn’t you want that for your child? Breastfeeding also accelerates brain development in babies and it is a soothing sensation for the baby. Plus, it also makes moms healthier. The longer mom breastfeeds, the less likely it is for her to obtain breast, ovarian or endometrial cancer. Isn’t that more great news, mom? This is once again, just like the harness, a perception issue, a societal standard that’s really up to no good.
Tamara is a firm believer of breastfeeding at an advanced age for her child. The benefits far outweigh society and what physicians suggest: that breastfeeding is best for babies up to six months. I am definitely sure they did not mean for us to stop at the seventh month, maybe some uncomfortable mothers just use it like a loophole in their motherhood contracts.
1. Never ever allow your child to learn the habit of smoking
Adolescence is one stage your child is going to go through alone, it is necessary. But that does not mean we cannot influence them into things that we want them to do, or discourage them on the things we do not want them to be doing. Smoking is a disgusting habit, children or teens should not have the chance to get addicted to it. Cigarettes are still one of the most harmful substances on earth that is still legal today.
In attachment parenting, monkey see monkey do is crucial. If you plan to advocate Tamara’s concept of parenthood, start with yourself. Any bad habits you have, that you definitely do not want you child getting, you should trash them now. Go cold turkey, there’s no other effective way. Tamara, as far as everyone knows, has been seen smoking before. But now she takes great care of her health, she is a very good candidate to attachment parenting.
Any type of addiction you have will serve as fuel or the matchstick that could ignite your child’s imagination, push their curiosity, and make them think aloud, if mom or dad is doing it, I should give it a try at least. Tamara vows to never let Sophie learn the habit of smoking. This is all just good sense.